Procrastination: What is That About? By Suzi Elton

Procrastination is an interesting topic. It's probably one of the top reasons why people do not fulfill their life purpose and achieve their dreams. If you think about it, procrastination seems like one of he most illogical things a person can do. You have a goal in life--yet you avoid taking action to realize that goal. Where's the logic in that? How can we start to undestand the dynamic of procrastination, what drives it, and how to stop procrastinating--without stress? Here are some ideas:

1.) One of the primary dynamics behind procrastination is a fear associated with taking action. It could be fear of success. It could be fear of failure. It could be fear that the task will consume too much time. It could be fear of rejection. It could be fear that we might be embarrassed. There is an unlimited variety of forms that fear can take. The important thing is to get clear on what fear is causing the procrastination and deal with it. This might be by deciding to take action in spite of fear. It might be to realize that the fear is ludicrous in light of what success might be.

2.) Another thing to look at is the possibility that procrastination might be a deliberate self sabotage on your part. This could come from many things: fear of being 'above others', fear of losing love if we succeed in our dreams, fear of exceeding our parental accomplishments. All of these can be subtle and subconscious and driving self sabotage without our awareness. None of it is logical, but it is extremely common.

3.) Another thing driving procrastination can be simple lack of planning. Without weekly planning, and weekly assessment of accomplishment of your plans, you have have no urgency or accountabiltiy. Without a plan, without timelines and without clarity on what to accomplish by when, procrastination makes more 'sense'. It is simply a time filler you use to avoid taking action on something you are unclear about.

4.) What do you procrastinate about? This is an interesting question to ask yourself. Since procrastination is an avoidance behavior, you might take a look to see what it is you're avoiding. Are you avoiding what you fear might change in your life when you succeed? Are you avoiding being the greatness you are capable of? Are you avoiding actions required once you've completed the current procrastinated action? Are you avoiding truly committing to your life? Are you avoiding the great feeling you get when you handle what you've been procrastinating about? Are you avoiding taking charge of your life and instead 'killing time' with trivial activities? Are you avoiding the great burst of energy that comes from action rather than procrastinating?

5.) In order to procrastinate, it's necessary to fill your time doing inconsequential activities when you know they are not the important actions to take. This usually gives a guilty, almost depressed feeling. We know we're not doing right by ourselves, but we get locked into a cycle going nowhere relentlessly.

The #1 solution to procrastination is to resolve to and to actually accomplish anything you've been avoiding--first thing immediately. Simply create a day where you handle that item first. Set things up so that you have the time. Get together everything you need. Prepare for the event. Make it your top priority. Don't do anything else until you have completed this item. Make sure there's enough time in your schedule. Take the time to create a winning situation. Don't give up until it is completed. Don't allow anything to get in your way. Don't be sidetracked by trivialities. Just do what it takes.

You will find that by meeting procrastination 'head on' each and every time, you will release a huge burst of energy. From this burst of energy, you will find that, in the wake of breaking through procrastination, you will unexpectedly accomplish a large amount of other items. By creating the habit to 'Do It First' rather than procrastinate, you literally break through a huge dam of self imposed stagnation. Experiment with this. You will be amazed at your results.

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Trying to Make a Cat Into a Dog By Suzi Elton

Have you ever 'had to' listen to a person complain long and miserably because someone in their life will not behave differently? Do you hear bitter recrimination because you are who you are and won't be what someone else wants you to be? Are you the one who is simply unable to accept the personality or nature of another in your life? These are instances of attempting to turn a cat into a dog.

There's something seriously askew when we cannot accept the basic nature of others in our life. Here are some things to consider.

1.) Perhaps the issue is that you never noticed the basic nature of the cat. You've spent a lot of time with them, but somehow (perhaps because you wished it so) you convinced yourself that the cat was a dog.

2.) There are those who delude themselves about the nature of things from the beginning. They prefer to live in fantasy rather than in reality. They end up with lots of knocks on the head (or heart) doing this, but somehow they just keep repeating the pattern.

3.) Some people accept others as they are at first, then later decide who they are is not adequate or acceptable. This can have a lot of causes...it can be a 'rejection game' meant to allow them to feel superior. It can be a way to create distance. Perhaps they were desperate for attention and company at first, then wake up one day finding fault.

4.) There is almost a kind of 'insanity' involved in wanting others to be different from who they are. It is irrational to want black to be white or to want a man to be a 'girlfriend' or to want for up to be down. Yet, we don't see the irrationality in wanting someone to be different from who they are.

5.) If you want a dog in your life, don't choose a cat for your pet. Pay attention to who people truly are. They will show you their true nature. All you have to do is keep your eyes open, observe, and don't pretend that they are different from what you see.

6.) Make a point not to fantasize or romanticize about people. Don't observe a single behavior and make up whole sagas about what kind of person they are. Just stay in reality and stay out of daydreams.

7.) Don't pretend to be someone different from who you truly are. Doing so will only complicate matters. If you are presenting a false self, you are likely getting others responding to you differently from their true self...and this can only result in problems later.

8.) Keep your social life active enough that you will not make choices driven by loneliness. When loneliness is a primary criteria, you will likely accept others who aren't really a fit for you or your life.

9.) Decide either to accept a person as they are or 'let them go' from your life. Life is too short to spend it in dissatisfaction in our interpersonal relationships. If they aren't what you want, bless them and send them on their way.

10.) If you want a dog, choose a dog. Go where dogs are. Involve yourself in activities that dogs frequent. Get really good at paying attention to dogs you meet. Make time to actively seek out what you want.

11.) Say 'No' to any temptations to accept a cat-'just one last time'-when you really want a dog. This can be a huge temptation when you are actively working to change the pattern. Just don't do it. It doesn't work. It never did and never will. You are deluding yourself.

12.) Don't go where the cats are and pine for a dog. This is ridiculous behavior and incredibly self defeating.

There is a whole new level of joy on the healed side of this pattern. You will find yourself a lot happier and more satisfied. You will accept others...and yourself. You will choose to fill your life with those who are what you want. You will stop suffering from deluding yourself. You will stop wanting and trying to change others. There's a lot of inner peace in acceptance. There's satisfaction in knowing a cat (or dog) when you see one. There's also much more love in the world.

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Believing You Are Separate Is Spiritually Pointless By Richard Blackstone

Most of us have lived the majority of our lives dealing with the world from an external point of view. We use our five senses of taste, touch, smell, sight and sound to interpret the various stimuli that we encounter through the events and experiences of our lives. This is a natural thing because we live in a world of relationships and we compare one set of physical characteristics against another set of physical characteristics to see how one relates to the other.

The world is not made up of only the physical aspects of our existence. We are also in relationship with the metaphysical aspects, which are necessary for the physical world to exist. The metaphysical part of our existence cannot be viewed by using the five external senses that we use to interpret the physical world, so we usually don't think about it much. We are more concerned in our day-to-day living, satisfying the needs of the ego.

Unfortunately the ego is never satisfied and is always in a state of need. You can give the ego all that it asks for and wake up the next morning and it will have a new list of demands. The demands of the ego are external. There is an infinite number of external stimuli, thus there will be an infinite demand for fulfillment.

The ego is a perfect tool for living your life if you subscribe to the concept that you are a separate being from all other people places and things. This paradigm of life says that you are a separate entity and at your core is fear. You are born in sin and you have to justify your existence to a judgmental God who will condemn you to hell if he finds you're unworthy of being accepted into heaven.

So you fear this final judgment and develop a system of 'you against the world' in an attempt to amass points for winning at the game of life. You have a willing partner in the ego who is very adept at putting the demands of the ego first in your decision making process.

You immerse yourself in the external world because that is where the game is being played. You are not concerned with going inside of yourself for peace and answers to your greatest questions because you are separate from everything, including your God, and therefore going within yourself doesn't serve to connect you with anything but your internal silence.

You don't see how this silence relates to your physical needs, and the idea that metaphysical thinking can affect your physical world doesn't make sense. What does make sense are the five senses. If you can't taste, touch, see, smell or hear it, then it doesn't serve you to satisfy your needs. And your needs have to be satisfied to quell your fears. But you can never quell the really big fear, the core fear of your being, until the time of your earthly death.

It's kind of sad because all of your earthly physical life you live in fear of not knowing if you are going to make it into heaven, and when you die you are no longer in the physical world so you never really know in a physical sense if you won the game of life.

According to this paradigm of separation you live your whole life in fear of something that you never know the outcome of. It seems very pointless and that is the realization that most of the people who live their lives in this manner come to. Their struggles and maneuvering and hard work and planning all seem pointless except to the extent that they can feel superior in their relationships to other people and superior over their environment.

The separation mentality is fertile ground for the ego and allows us un-ending opportunities to create those aspects of ourselves that we are not. The problem comes when we believe in the separation mentality so deeply that we define ourselves and align ourselves with the exterior events and experiences that represent who we are not. The ultimate reality is that we are not fear and we are not separate from our source.

You are free, however, to believe that you are those things because you have free will to create yourself as you choose. If it is your choice to create a life of fear of, and separation from, your God source, then that is okay.

Fear says that's the way it is, and love says it is entirely your choice.

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What Are Your Insecurities? By Lynn Lawson

Everyone has insecurities. Whether you feel your nose is a little crooked; you’re not as intelligent as others around you; or you feel you need to shed a few pounds to be at your best; we all feel there are changes we can make to make us feel better about ourselves.

One of my insecurities has always been that I’m more of an introvert. Even though I was a cheerleader in high school, love to perform, participated in lots of group activities throughout my life, and actively seek opportunities to lead, I still consider myself a more reserved person (maybe an introvert with extrovert tendencies). While I am funny to those who really know me (kind of a nerdy goof ball), I still find myself pretty quiet (definitely not shy) around those who don’t know me well. I can honestly say that in party settings, I am not the “go to” person for fun.

I love to have fun, but I love to be in control, too. That’s probably the root of the insecurity, I guess. I never enjoy feeling “out of my element”. And, I sometimes avoid situations in which I feel out of control. However, I also balance this insecurity by placing myself in some of these same situations.

For me, being more introverted allows me to manage my life better. So, to an extent, it serves me well. But, if it ever gets to a point where I cannot be comfortable without being in control, then I’ll know I have a problem. My goal continues to be to challenge myself to experience bouts of free reign in my life, so that I can loosen more and more of my self-restraint.

When you look at yourself, what do you see and how do you feel about yourself? Small levels of insecurity are common in all people. But when insecurity debilitates your life, you have to consider why you succumb to anxieties about yourself. What is the root cause of your insecurity? If you don’t identify the root cause, your potential for a better life can be strangled by the uncertainties you feel about yourself.

Ask yourself these questions to determine your level of insecurity:

1. Am I shy or uneasy with strangers?
2. Do I wish I was smarter?
3. Do I wish I was better looking?
4. Am I overly cautious?
5. Do I think I’m an emotionally weak person?

If you have more yes than no answers, then you may have an issue with insecurity. If so, you’ll need to restructure your thoughts and perceptions about yourself. You can do this by replacing the negative mental energy of your insecurity with positive action.

For example, if you wish you were smarter, rather than ruminating on your feeling of inadequacy, you can choose to learn more about a subject of interest to you. In this instance, taking the time to learn while worrying less about your personal anxieties will give you the confidence you need to gradually banish this thought from your mind.

This same method can be used for any type of insecurity, but you also have to remember to stay in balance. Overcompensating in your life because of insecurity proves futile, as well. Just remember, worry without action is just as destructive as too much action due to little self-worth.

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Disguised Blame By Suzi Elton

o you shirk responsibility for your own life with disguised blame? This sounds like a fairly accusatory statement, but 'hear' me out. There's value here. Let's start with the concept of 'shirk responsibility'. There may be ways that your life does not fulfill the dreams you have. This could be an indicator that you have have unconsciously not taken responsibility for creating what you want. Don't get into any judgment or self critical behavior. Simply observe where you life is less than what you want it to be. This will likely suggest some potential activities you could choose to take to close the gap.

Here are some other ways that we human may shirk responsibility for creating the lives we want and some potential disguised blaming techniques.

1.) We may choose not to fulfill our destiny, but hold someone else at fault. Many clients believe they do not have the life they desire because of childhood treatment. Obviously, this is untrue, when you pay attention to stories of very traumatic situations taht some have overcome. If this descibes you (and it is very common), take a serious look at how you still allow the past to create a less than satisfying future. In effect, you are letting 'them' and those events rob you of the life you want. Does that make any sense?

2.) Any time you do not follow through on commitments to yourself--there is some sort of disguised blame. Take a look at the excuses you use, 'I'm tired.', 'I'm depressed.', 'Someone's not treating me right.', 'I'm overwhelmed.', 'I didn't have enough time.' Somehow, these excuses suggest that you had no control over the situation. You might look at the possibility that putting your commitment to yourself and your life first would be taking responsiblity. Usually, if you do that, and take action in spite of circumstances, you will move out of the mindset of the excuse, no longer be controlled by it, and develop momentum by staying in action.

3.) If we hold that, 'It's not my fault!' that we did not follow through, that, of course implies that the blame lies elsewhere. Any time you find yourself thinking or saying that sentence, take a moment to explore whose fault it is.

4.) One way that clients disguise blame is by not taking charge and making sure there is enough time to do the things they commit to do to create the results they want. Then, they end up incomplete and pretending to be the victim of 'time'. If you recognize yourself here, this can be an easy shift to make. Simply make the activity your #1 priority and plan all other activities around it.

5.) Failing to plan or write the plan down is another way to disguise blame. If you don't take the responsibility of creating a written plan, it's unlikely that you will see your responsibility in not having what you want. Written plans are always a factor in success.

6.) Frequently, clients fail to progress because they have no support system. What they do not see is that they have not built one. They have not put out the effort to do what it takes to have the ongoing support that contributes so much to success. How can you create support for yourself? Hire a coach, join a mastermind, get a mentor, take classes at an entrepreneur center. Assocaite with positive and supportive people.Avoid negative and non-supportive situations and people. Make this happen for yourself.

7.) 'Life intervened' is another way that we might disguise blame. Yes, this does happen to all of us at times. If you find that that is your consistent excuse for lack of followthrough though, it is simply an excuse. You might look at how you allow other things to take priority over having the life you want. This is disguised blame because surely it is someone else's fault.

Take a look (gently) at any ways that you do not follow through on your commitments to yourself. These are likely going to show you the ways you get in the way of having the life you want. Once you see your self sabotage, you can start to change it.

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Five Effective Tips in Managing Your Busy Day By Brent McNutt

Almost all of us live a busy life. Students need to go to school on time. They have to make sure that they prepare for all their subjects. Working moms on the other hand has to wake up early. They have to attend to the needs of her family, prepare the breakfast, and get ready for work. While dads help out, read his paper, check on his things, get ready, and drop the kids to school.

All of us have errands to run. Others have to squeeze in some important appointments while working. Here are some tips that will help you manage your affairs more effectively.

1. Make a to-do list for the entire week. This does not mean that you have to make a schedule for the entire week. Just list down the things you need to accomplish before the week ends. This includes paying the bills, grocery shopping, visiting your parents or friends, and/or filing important documents. This will help you plan what to do during your free day. It will also help you squeeze in some of the things you can during your break in the office.

2. Before you call it a day, prepare a list of the things you need to do the following day. Prioritize. If you need to visit a friend in the hospital, see what time you will be available and make sure that the hospital allows visitation during those time. A list is a good way to remind you of the things that needs to be done. It will also keep your activities organized.

3. Check for the two things you can do at the same time. While taking a break, you can probably look for cheap landau scrubs for your wife. You know how busy nurses are. They barely have time to eat their lunch. She will surely appreciate this kind of gesture.

4. Do the things you need to do during the scheduled time. If it is time for you to work, work. Take the break when it is time to do so. You will not finish everything on time if you do not follow your schedule.

5. Do not try to do all the things in a day. This is why you are prioritizing. Place the things that need your immediate attention on the top of your list. This will entail that you need to finish them first before you do the rest of the list. If you are unable to finish them during the day, place them on top of your list the next day.

All of us have things to do. We have respective duties that keep us busy. However, we also have free time. We can use this to help our loved ones. You can check the internet to find cheap landau scrubs for your partner while you sip your coffee during your break. You can also manage your time better if you plan and organize the things you need to do ahead of time. This will allow you maximize your free time and will ensure that you have done all the important things first.

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Can Drinking and Drugging Help me Deal With Painful Feelings? By Tom Horvath

Yes, but...

No one complains about feeling happy! But we don’t want to have other, painful feelings. When these feelings arise, one way to respond to them is to drink or drug. One set of painful feelings can be broadly labeled fear or anxiety: 'Drugs and/or alcohol helped me cope with feelings like anxiety, tension, fear, stress, agitation, nervousness, vulnerability, intimidation, embarrassment and panic.' Other painful feelings center around sadness and depression: 'They helped me cope with feelings like depression, sadness, hurt, discouragement, grief, feeling defeated, feeling deprived or feeling abandoned.'

There are many other painful feelings as well:

a) frustration, resentment, anger, annoyance, irritability and rage
b) feeling remorseful, ashamed, guilty, responsible, humiliated
c) feeling disgusted or shocked
d) feeling bored, apathetic or impatient
e) feeling over-excited, “amped up,” “wired”
f) feeling exhausted or depleted
g) feeling lonely, isolated, cut off, alienated
h) feeling powerless
i) feeling “in pain” without being able to define the pain very well (perhaps a mixture of many painful feelings)

How well do drugs and alcohol work to cope with these painful feelings? For most of us, quite well! If you have had the experience of alcohol relaxing you, or coke giving you energy, or vicodin just helping you feel better, you don’t need much explanation of these effects. For some, the drugs immediately create bad feelings more than they resolve them. Did you ever see anyone get paranoid after smoking pot or doing a line of coke? These folks aren’t likely to turn to drugs (or at least that drug) for help dealing with bad feelings!

But if you are reading this article, you may be in the group that gets emotional relief from one or more drugs. Have you found yourself thinking:

“It helped me bring my feelings into a more normal range. They were just too out of control without it.'

'I don't understand why, but I felt tremendous pain, and when I did this the pain was less.'

'It helped me cope when I felt like I had nothing left inside of me.'

So what is the problem with this? Maybe nothing, if you don’t do it often or in large quantities. Did you ever overeat to cope with stress? That overeating isn’t a big problem unless it becomes a pattern, a habit, a way of life.

The problems from drug use (or overeating) come from two factors: 1) by using you have not dealt with the problem directly (by delaying dealing with it you may have allowed it to get even worse), and 2) drug use is by itself becomes, sometimes quickly, a problem in many ways, including having a negative impact on how you fit you’re your family and social group, your health, your emotional well-being, your financial security, your legal status, and other ways you are likely familiar with.

However, neither of these facts is guaranteed. Maybe delay will actually help. Maybe the drug you use, in the quantities and ways you do it, causes little harm (think “caffeine”).

So, the only way to know if the drug use you engage in is worth the cost, is to list the benefits of using and the costs of using. Then think very hard about your lists. If you decide that the costs exceed the benefits, then it’s time to make a change.

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Create Your World By Your World By James Heller

“Simply give others a bit of yourself; a thoughtful act, a helpful idea, a word of appreciation, a lift over a rough spot, a sense of understanding, or a timely suggestion. You take something out of your mind, garnished in kindness out of your heart, and put it into the other person’s mind and heart.” Charles H. Burr

Words, words, words. Written words, spoken words, signed words. If we are going to be really successful in this world, no matter what you do, you need to be able to use words to create the results you are seeking. Unfortunately the vast majority of people do not understand the power of words. We think that we are just speaking, but words create or destroy. They create or destroy people.

A UCLA study of one-year-olds found that the child hears the word ‘no’ more than 400 times per day. So by the time a child is four, he’s been told ‘no’ more than half a million times. The bottom line is that toddlers from all cultures and across all time lines learn what to do by constantly being told what not to do. This conditioning carries on when we get to school – don’t talk in class, don’t color outside the lines, don’t run in the hallways, don’t give a wrong answer, don’t …

From this study we see that words are being used to control people. However, it is also true that a child’s creativity, desire to examine, and curiosity begin to die after being told to conform so many times.

Let’s turn our attention to the creative power of words. It really doesn’t matter whether you are doing a live presentation on stage, or you are talking to people on the telephone or one-to-one personally. There are two very important aspects to consider when opening our mouths to speak.

The first is our message. We need to know what we are talking about. We have to be knowledgeable about the topic. This is the heart of the talk. If you do not speak with some understanding and authority you might as well stay in your seat. You will not be able to help anyone. You do not have to be the ‘expert’ but you do have to be convinced that the subject is worthwhile to those you are speaking to.

What do you want to communicate to the people? Will what you are offering help others improve their work or personal lives? Could what you are speaking about or even selling be the solution to their problems? Will this help them achieve their goals in life? Will this meet their dreams?

The second is our signature. Our signature is defined as “any unique, distinguishing aspect, feature, or mark.” This is where you let your personality come through in the presentation. This is when the presentation comes alive.

Your signature includes your body language – your posture, eye contact, facial expressions and other body movements before and during the presentation. Eye contact is important. I have had to sit through presentations with the person doing the talking and he is looking at the ceiling. If he isn’t going to talk to me then he might as well sit down and mail me the information to read. He might actually have something that I’m interested in but if he isn’t looking at the audience then I’m not listening.

This also carries to the phone conversations. Even though we can’t see each other we can tell if the person on the other end is smiling. We can tell if they really want to be on the call. For those of us who use the phone to present our business opportunity this is a very important thing to understand. Our voice – the pitch, inflections, the tone – all convey our attitude. If you are just there to make a sale they will know it. If you are there because you think this opportunity will be of benefit to them then they will listen.

What are your words saying? Be careful because you are creating or destroying by what comes out of your mouth. You are not only creating or destroying their future but your own as well.

James Heller

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The Process Of Goal Definition By John Tebar

One of major factors that become a stumbling block is we generally forget what the goal is. We already posses the ability to be, do and have anything we want. How do I know this? Well it is very simple. When we want to achieve a goal, we always strive to get it. There are few parameters that surround goal achievement that does not vary, no matter what you do.

You can achieve any goal that you want. I will give you the example of getting a drivers’ license. Remember when you were young and you just turned of age to get a drivers’ license? One of the things that happened was you got excited. You set the goal to get the license, not for the sake of having one, but for what it represented to you at the time.

Right before I even started my driving lessons, I was excited I could see and feel myself in possession of that license. Now, what was happening was that the license represented freedom, liberty to travel beyond a limited area, also to go where I want to go at any time. Wait you say, you don’t have a car and you have not even started your lessons yet. This is correct reality, my circumstances, resources were not even there. Yet I pushed to get that drivers’ license.

The goal was not to learn how to drive; the goal was to have in my possession the drivers’ license. Why did I want that drivers’ license? It is how it may me feel, pure and simple. Did I have to learn to drive? Of course, I had to go through the process or better yet through certain steps to get to the goal. The goal was the drivers’ license, the steps were to pass the written test, get the driving lessons, take the driving test and with a pass on all of these, then obtain the official license.

What was the process? It was these steps:

1) Know what you want

2) Get excited about it

3) Know, why you want it

4) Set your mind to it

5) Get on with the work

Here is your bonus this process is already in you. You own it and you can make it work for anything that you want. This is where it gets tricky, today you might want a fit body; tomorrow you want to be a daredevil, the next day you want to run for a government office. That is why we don’t get to our goals or anywhere close.

This does not require any circumstance or resource, you simply focus on what you want and fix your mind to it. You keep yourself excited and remind yourself about what achieving this goal represents to you. The more clarity the more steps you will achieve or go through at a faster pace.

This is why your vision of where you want to arrive is so important. The more clarity the more the desire, the more the desire the more order and movement results in that given direction. Remember that we can not outperform our self image; we can only change how we think about ourselves.

That power to achieve anything we want is already in our possession, we were born with it, we just have to learn how to use it effectively and that is my message.

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Strategies to Evaluate and Address Constant Depression By Trevor Price

In terms of depression, treating it can vary from a lengthy and complex series of psychotherapy sessions to something as easy and obvious as improving your diet and daily lifestyle. To obtain a better understanding of clinical depression and what treatment methods are used, keep reading.

Diagnosing Depression

Feeling down in the dumps or a little blue is very normal. However, if these feelings of sadness or desperation continue for a period longer than two weeks or start to interfere with your day-to-day life, then it may be time to seek professional help.

This can actually become a life-threatening condition and cause people to lose the will to live, which will either adversely affect their lifestyle and health or, in extreme cases, could lead to suicide.

To identify clinical depression, doctors look for signs of sadness, melancholy, impatience, trouble concentrating, a withdrawal from life and regular activities, weight loss or weight gain, excessive drinking or drug abuse, decreased sex drive, poor self-esteem, self-deprecating thoughts or behavior, thoughts of suicide, hopelessness, a feeling of overbearing built and problems sleeping.

Causes of Depression

Unfortunately, depression doesn't have one simple cause that can just be rooted out and done away with. This disease will vary with each individual, but can often be triggered by a stressful event like the death of a family member, a family tragedy or a financial or career crisis. Depression is also linked to certain health issues, both physical and mental.

How Depression is Treated

First, the doctor needs to diagnose clinical depression. Once a diagnosis is reached, he or she must then establish the extent of the depression and its root causes. With some cases of depression, your doctor may simply recommend a better diet and increased exercise. With other more severe forms of depression, a patient is often referred to a therapist and prescribed certain antidepressants and other drugs.

Typically, traditional treatment starts by making sure the patient isn't planning to harm himself or herself. Then, it focuses on the symptoms of depression and finally on preventing the depression from recurring. Usually, the most effective treatment programs are those that involve therapy and lifestyle modifications.

How Lifestyle Changes Can Help With Depression

Doing just 30 minutes of exercise every day can be wondrous as a form of treating depression. Also, eating a diet high in protein and low in processed food can be beneficial. Exercise has been shown to boost mood levels while processed foods can often lower them. By leading a healthy lifestyle, you can help keep depression at bay.

Medication

Common medications used in depression treating are SSRIs (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors). There are a wide variety of SSRIs used to treat depression. Common side effects typically affect the gastrointestinal system, the libido and the nervous system. Drugs like Venlafaxine may also cause anxiety, insomnia and the inability to achieve orgasm.

Frequently depression is not taken seriously until the person suffering with it is either in a very bad state of mind or has done something drastic. If a few of the symptoms described above characterize your life or that of a loved one, you should seek medical attention.

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Popular Trends With Subliminal Messages By Al Perhacs

Subliminal messages, super shorts bursts of either invisible or inaudible messages that you do not pick up in a conscious manner, are growing in popularity today. The mind interprets these messages in your unconscious, using the info for all types of personal self help activities ranging from physical and mental healing to dealing with emotional issues and more.

While a lot people were introduced to subliminal messages in the form of ads, many years ago, it was a negative experience. They ran into them during movies at the cinema, for instance, inviting guests to buy popcorn and other grandstand products. Not what the public wanted for their movie ticket purchase, that's for sure.

But times have changed. And subliminal message techniques and systems have changed, with a popular means of using the short, repetitive messages being with computers today.

Subliminal Computer Self Help

A popular product line in the marketplace today is a subliminal message script. You purchase the script and it usually comes in the form of an executable file that you download and save to your computer, then click to start.

Once you start or activate it, you often find preloaded message series that can help with any number of issues like smoking cessation, weight loss, overcoming addiction, improving your self esteem and more. The message can even be customized or you can load your own series.

A series may include some 10 to 20 short messages like:

1. I can stop smoking and I will.
2. I do not need a cigarette. Instead, breathing in good, fresh air smells and feels great.
3. Instead of spending money on cigarettes, I will save my money & spend it later, however I like.
4. My health is improving every day.
5. My lungs are getting stronger and healthier.
6. Etc.

Then you go into your control panel of the software script, and set a timer that tells how fast your messages will be displayed, like every second or so. Try the default and ones recommended, and adjust as needed.

Subliminal Message Writing

For help with your message writing, there are several resources to help. A small sampling of these are:

1) Elance - Head to this freelance site and hire people to bid son writing message series for you. You can seek writers who are experienced writing these. The site offers free account registration and setup, and free project posting as well as advanced paid options.

2) Head to the public library, local bookstore or online bookstore like Amazon for subliminal books that focus on what your goals are, to help with the content. For example, you can find a materials like this CD / DVD, '30-Day Subliminal Weight Loss Program: Lose Fat While Your Unconscious Mind Does The Work,' by Steve Murray.

Learn more at individual places that sell these products. And download a trial where you can to see what you think. Subliminal messages make it much easier today to tackle physical, mental and other issues in a safe manner. See what you think.

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Seven Cures to Darkened Times By Lillie Oliver

Manifestation is the materialization of thoughts and dreams into reality. As a very common way of functioning people have been performing manifestations without much thought to the process of how it all happens. However, over the past few years people have become more consciously aware of how to intentionally manifest things in order to make positive changes in their lives. Practicing methods of using thoughts and feelings along with taking action have been the general keys to materializing desired lifestyles. Yet even with the insight of some of the greatest teachers on the laws of attraction, some people still become frustrated in failed attempts.

A book titled “The Hell I Can’t” by Terry McBride is an excellent real life example of some of the obstacles one may face as they take that journey to intentionally manifesting freedoms. After years of applying acquired spiritual knowledge and different techniques on how intentailly manifest his desire to heal, Mr. McBride finally discovered how a barrier could exist in ones belief system and neutralize applied efforts. Belief systems are often embedded into the subconscious they can seem near impossible to change even if you’re aware they are getting in your way. So even when this type of block is found, it may still take time to overcome it.

This is just one amongst many types of barrier so it’s understandable that there could be many reasons why people don’t succeed right away in attempts to manifestation intentionally. However this should not discourage one from continuing on in the journey. The reward of finally being able to manifest with ease is well worth the time it may take to find and conquer barriers.

There are a variety of techniques suggested to practice in order to over come the barriers you might be facing. All of which point to the same conclusion, that to create a life style using thoughts , feelings and actions it is wise to note these are the basic tools to help you manifest, but not the means to an end.

Being aware that there may be barriers to face in learning how to intentionally manifest should fuel o the ability to hang in there. However for those who might be inclined to give up in darkened moments of frustration, here are what I call the seven cures for the darkened times. ‘Darkened Times’ can be anything from hidden barriers to fighting your own personally generated sour mood for the day. With or without barriers, the following are seven cures to apply as methods of healing ill thoughts and feelings. These cures will help endurance and may aid in finding barriers that may be blocking you.

1. Meditation on a daily basis is extremely important when dealing with flows of energy. Environments are composed of both negative and positive energies. You will not always be able to predict, know or choose the type of atmospheric energy you’ll be dwelling in. Surrounding energies can and often will have some measure of influence on your own inner energy. Meditation strengthens inner energy. It is a quieting down the five senses and a tuning into a higher sense of cleansing energies. It is much like a daily shower for the spirit to start refreshed. So if you find yourself in a funk, you can look forward to meditation as a chance to renew the spirit.

2. is the process of picturing desired outcomes in your mind. You should live in your imagined dream as you detail it on how you want it to be. This type of concentration and focus work like a fueling system that is specifically designed for the purpose of manifesting. The book ‘The Master Key System” by Charles Hannel describes concentration as being likened to the process of acting. He explains that by picturing in your mind what you want as well as feeling the part of having it, you are practicing effective concentration. The objective is to live in the moment of the visualization and feel your role in it as real as possible. Visualizing as often as you can will produce good feelings even if for just the moment as well as keep the law of attraction working for you in a continual manner.

3. Gratitude is like prime grade fuel for energizing good feelings. It has a give and take effect in making others feel good too. You can express it as often as possible or just think about the things you are grateful for. Gratitude is one of those contagious emotions that when shared with others it creates a spiral effect of positive feelings. In a nutshell, it feels good to feel good. It feels even better to feel good about making another feel good for making you feel good.

4. Affirmations can be very potent if done right. Verbalizing words that reflect the desired goals you want to create is a great tool. More than simply saying words, you have to apply affirmations with a coinciding feeling to matches the words. Often affirmations have been misused or misunderstood. Many people have expressed how affirmations make them feel like they are just lying to themselves. This is why generating a good feeling to match the statement is important. Otherwise you are just wasting time in neutralizing the desired goal. Putting feelings into the words is necessary in order to create the desired positive energy flow. The focus is on generating the energy flow that will determine what type of energy you’ll be attracting. Like in visualizing you want to concentrate to make it feel as real as possible, not because it is, but because it is how you want it to become. Enjoy the good feelings as you live in the moment.

5. Exercise is undeniably a powerful tool for strengthening not only your physical body, but it works on your mental state as well. As your brain is a part of your physical body, a workout while visualizing and/or using affirmations can produce very potent energy flows. Combining the use of manifesting techniques while in a energy generating process like physical exercise causes a duel fueling.

6. Serving others is much like gratitude. It feels good to help others and in doing so you help yourself as well. Doing good for others also causes that upward spiral reaction of good feelings. When this type of energy flow takes place it is not only just between you and one other person. A chain reaction often occurs causing good deeds to effects the giver, the receiver and those who observe the deed as well.

7. Exercise like meditation is extremely important. As one succeeds in practicing acts of faith trust is place in the Omnipresent, omnipotent, and omniscient. Faith is recognition of the higher power and an acknowledgement of this presence with intention to do works with an unchanging definiteness. If you can construe the possibility of the all knowing, all present, and all wise energy spirit working with the energies you produce daily, you can also understand why it is crucial to practice acts of faith.

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Unconditional Love Has Spiritual Advantages By Richard Blackstone

Which sounds better to you, conditional love or unconditional love? Let us explore the concept of unconditional love and see the natural consequences of this concept.

We must first acknowledge that the ramifications of what we are talking about here are not just when boy meets girl and they fall in “love.” All too often in our society, when we speak of love it is in the limited description of love between humans. This is an important aspect of love because it is one of our base relationships, but it is still just one aspect of “love.”

We can go so far as to say when we are “making love,” we define it strictly as “having sex.” In fact, often in our society, “having sex” would be a very poor description of “making love.” Could we not also be “making love” if we are baking chocolate chip cookies? Or could we not be “making love” if we are walking in the woods observing nature?

We are not going to put limits on the love described as unconditional love because everything and every experience is love based and inherent to the paradigm that God and we are one and at our core we are love. Just as we understand that a judging and condemning God can only give us conditional love, so we also understand that a non-judgmental and accepting God can only give us unconditional love.

Unconditional love, as a concept, is love-based. That sounds a lot better than conditional love, as a concept, that is fear-based. If we speak of love we don't want it based in fear do we? We want it based in love. This may sound kind of silly but it goes to the heart of the issue of why we, and our societies, do some of the insane things we do.

Unconditional love would never tell us to make war and kill people if they didn't believe in God the way we do, because unconditional love would not judge or condemn the way that another person in our society believes. Unconditional love would be accepting of those beliefs. Only fear would cause such insane actions. Fear, and the idea that you are separate from, and superior to, those who don't believe as you do.

If you are separate from the people you kill in the name of God, it relieves you from the responsibility of their death. You are not them and it is not your fault that they don't think of God the same way you do. If they had, you wouldn't have had to kill them. They brought on their own death by knowingly not conforming to your standards.

This sounds pretty arrogant doesn't it? It sounds like something a bully would say. It is sometimes funny how nations talk to each other just like bullies on a playground. The same mentality is going on because bullies feel separate from and superior to those they wish to bully around.

When you come from the perspective that we are all one and the love we have for one another is an unconditional love, then the idea of killing another because he views life from a different perspective, would seem to be pretty abhorrent behavior.

Because what you do to another you do to yourself. In effect, in the killing of another, you are killing a part of yourself. This behavior makes no sense when you are coming from the base mentality of oneness.

When you are coming from this reality of oneness you cannot relieve yourself from the responsibility of your actions. You are accountable for what you do. Your actions are your creations. Conscious creations or unconscious creations, they are your creations and you need to be accountable for them.

When you live with unconditional love you accept and rejoice in all your creations. You don't judge your creations and call them bad or good, or right or wrong. You observe your creations and see if they serve you or not. If they do not serve you, then you choose another thought and create that.

The key here is to love your self unconditionally. When you can stop judging yourself and accept who you are as the magnificent and perfect manifestation of one of God's spirit children, then you are on your way to acceptance of all that you create. We all need to start with ourselves.

Indeed, remember this: your very first creation on this life journey here on earth was when you created the person that you are now. You chose who you were going to be before you entered this physical plane. If you do not accept and love who you are, you are condemning your original creation and not taking responsibility for the magnificent creature you call yourself. Love yourself first and foremost. See the beauty within and love the essence that you are unconditionally.

If you love yourself unconditionally you will love God unconditionally because you and God are one. You will bring a balance to your life because God loves you unconditionally too.

That is what we are talking about here. We bring the balance back into our lives that is missing when we think of ourselves as just a body with a mind. It is the spiritual side of the equation that opens the door to unconditional love. Because unconditional love, like the spirit, resides within us. It is our core.

Conditional love, like the body, is external and reacts to external stimuli. Unconditional love, like the soul, is internal and doesn't have to react to external stimuli. Unconditional love just is and you can tap into it anytime you like in any exterior expression of yourself that you choose. It is always there when you want it. It is part of your source. All you need do is tap into your source.

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Depression And Anger By Thomas J Bronson

Uncontrollable anger is related to depression and anxiety. Being constantly worried about what you cannot control can cause depression. Living in despair, causes misery therefore will deteriorate your sound mind. That is why being in control of one’s anger is helpful whereby it can push negative thoughts that can bring about dejection and apprehension.

Symptoms of depression and anxiety are many. People who suffer from these conditions may feel that they are perceived wrongly by the public. They are always crying out defeat and can no longer face life. Sometimes they may feel that people are out there to get them. If you suffer from any of these dilemmas, you might be on the brink of a breakdown. This article will help you control negative emotions and thus repress ill feelings and despair and at the same time, anxiety treatment.

Having a closed perspective can lead you to accumulate your heated feelings and when it does, it can harm you inwardly. Accepting that you have a crisis is a step towards resolution. You need to recognize the core of your problem and then find the best solution to overcome it. When you have looked deep inside you, you may find that there are important things that you may have forsaken all this while. If your problem is people, then you need to see a doctor because this is a clear sign of mental instability.

Chemical disproportion of the brain for people who suffer from anxiety and depression can cause your brain to fool you into thinking about something non existent. When you always get the feeling that people are staring at you, you should constantly remind yourself that people are not always busy with other people but are only aware of the changes around them. They are just as conscious as you are about their surroundings. If that is still too much for you, just try to go on with your life. You may also want to seek anxiety disorder medication to help you with these ailments as well.

Are the daily chores and duty putting you down? Do your kids drive you up the walls? Why is it that these things tend to affect you more that others around you? That is what you think. The truth is everybody goes through the challenges of life at some point. All you need to do is to relieve yourself from the burden and get away from it all once in a while. You can do something that you enjoy for a change. Exercising can also release tension. This also helps you achieve a healthier mind and body.

Don’t try to control something you cannot simply control. Try to let go and search for ways you can do to solve your problems. Try to be reasonable with yourself. There is no rush in trying to achieve everything in a short time. You need to be stress free to be happy. And when you are happy, you can live your life to the fullest and be all you want to be in life. However, always remember to take one step at a time.

It is important to pamper your self each day. Learn some coping relaxation response techniques that benefit both your mind and body. If you feel overwhelmed, you might want to inhale and exhale breaths for up to 10 counts. Curling up on a couch and watching a favorite movie can benefit your mind and body if you are letting your thoughts go.

Learn to be content with what you have. Don’t go about thinking that you can take hold of something that is impossible. Choose to control your emotions rather than suppressing them. Therefore, if you don’t learn to manage your anger, it may emerge from you in the most unpredictable and hideous ways.

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5 Benefits Of Slowing Down: Tales Of A Pregnant Pause By Amber Rosenberg

For the majority of my life, learning how to slow down has been very much a work-in-progress. Several years ago, I was completely unfamiliar with the concept, however, due to various life circumstances, I've had regular opportunities to re-examine my pace in life and to make choices as to what would work best moving forward.

This last year or so, I chose to exercise really hard, to work even harder, and to fill my weekends with social engagements. Then, three months ago, I found out I was pregnant and everything started to change - again.

As a goal-oriented woman who prides herself in knowing what she wants and making it happen, I felt extremely grateful to be pregnant - especially since this is not a guarantee in life. I was very excited for about a week - I called immediate family to share the news and was unable to contain myself when I saw friends in person. I thought I had it all figured out. Think again.

I quickly started to experience severe pain that left me on the couch for two weeks. I was diagnosed with three different pregnancy-related conditions that not only caused pain but left me completely exhausted - much more than the normal first-trimester fatigue (not to mention the all-day bouts of nausea).

I realized that my body was providing me with my next opportunity to learn how to slow down and I had to make some choices - quickly. I decided to greatly minimize my work commitments and to give up my intense hour-long daily exercise routine (it was just too painful). I also scaled down my social calendar, selecting fewer and more easy-going activities.

To say that all of this has been a challenge and a learning experience would be an understatement. Here are a few lessons I've learned, in hope that you can apply whatever you find helpful to your own life.

Sometimes a packed schedule can give you the feeling that you're accomplishing a lot, really successful and in high-demand. While all this action and busyness may make you feel important, it's still possible to feel successful without killing yourself. It's less about quantity and more about quality; less about ego and more about substance. Also, if you don't learn how to slow down on your own, your body may take matters into its own hands. Last, slowing down is a body/mind/soul/heart experience. You can't just say you're going to slow down and make it happen. All of you has to be on board (or forced to be on board) or it won't work.

5 Benefits of Slowing Down:

1) You experience the present more fully and are able to be here now without worrying about what's next.

2) The days and weeks feel longer and you gain a truer understanding of the value of time.

3) You're better able to notice the people, the moments or the situations that give you the most energy and fulfillment and to prioritize these moving forward. When you choose to spend time with people, you're better able to connect with them and on a deeper level.

4) You're able to get back in touch with your creative, strategic side that allows you to think big and create a vision.

5) You remember what you're grateful for because you have time to think about it.

As you think about how slowing down may serve you, ask yourself a few questions. What's the easiest thing you can do this week to slow down? What's the benefit? What's the cost? What are you learning about yourself? What will you do differently moving forward?

You may find that learning how to slow down is a wonderful gift you can give yourself, your loved ones, and your career. Or you may discover that you're at a point in your life where slowing down simply doesn't serve you. The important thing is to do some honest, careful thinking about what works best for you right now and to know that you always have a choice moving forward. You're worth it.

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The Art of Processing Emotions By Bart Sharp

Many of us spend hours regularly processing emotions that we experience in our lives. It is in the belief that if we come to a place of resolve with them that we would be happier and/or be more present in our lives. Processing emotions is a skill that many have difficulty doing especially if they were not taught as children to identify what they were feeling. Millions have difficulty processing their emotions so if you perceive that you fit in this category do not feel alone.

Processing emotions is both an intellectual skill as well as a body experience. We may be able to express the emotion, recall the memory related to the feeling but have no real connection to it in our body. Which may make us feel disconnected to the experience itself as well as our own body.

Being able to perceive emotions includes feeling the whole experience in our physical body. It is feeling where our body feels uncomfortable when we are upset and all of our bodily reactions included. When we do this we teach ourselves to be more present in our body. The more we live with this kind of awareness anger does feel more intense but so does joy and happiness. We begin the process of leaving the life of muddled emotions where we feel little and remain in a mundane expression of our feelings to a fuller range of ourselves.

One of the keys to breaking out of the mundane life is learning to feel the emotions of our past. What we have suppressed emotionally is often one of the blocks that are holding us back from feeling ourselves. If we can tap into those energetic memories on a body level we can begin the process of releasing them for good. Our cognitive recall of these experiences only gives us the information from our mind we have to address what our body has stored away for them to really go.

What I have discovered is that so much of our daily anxieties, worries, angers, etc always have a source from our past. So when I experience the emotion I stop, sit down and feel it. The first step is to locate where you feel the distress in your body. If you cannot identify it in your body ask the consciousness of your body to turn up so that you can feel it. Or just ask your body, “Where is the sensation of this emotion located?”

Our bodies can do this. They are complex sensory organs that can give us massive amounts of information if we ask. It is important to know that the body wants us to uncover this stuff because it will be so much easier on it not carrying these stuffed emotions.

When we are able to identify the location of the sensation of the emotion sit and be present with it. Place your awareness to perceive the full intensity of the experience of it. Observe only, if we judge it we re-traumatize us to the experience, for example do not go into how bad it was. Even if a memory comes up just be present with it.

Once you perceive that you are in touch with the full energetic memory of the experience ask your body, “Is there a deeper source to where this emotion originated from?” Observe if another sensation shows up in your body, it may be in another location or even underneath where you have been working. Begin the process again of perceiving the full intensity of the energetic memory. Your presence with it will be the catalyst for its release.

When we release these experiences we will begin to feel a lightness in our body. It feels like energetic rocks are removed out of us giving way for a greater body awareness to begin that generally is perceived as feeling lighter. It is a part of the process of knowing yourself wholly.

As I go deeper in this process I find that sometimes I do need to cry to assist in grieving or hit or scream into pillows to release my rage more completely. When I do this I remain focused on the intensity of the energy in my body, I do not put my attention on the person that I am mad at such as imagining their face on the pillow. This is about identifying and releasing your own rage not projecting it out to someone. An important distinction.

What I have found is by using the tools of Access Energy Transformation I am able to release these repressed emotions more effectively. Access releases thoughts, beliefs and emotions on a cellular level. When it is used directly with the identification of the energetic emotional experience the release is very dynamic and permanent. I have seen my life change and witness huge transformational shifts in others by using these awesome tools.

When we begin to live in a place was we are not influenced by our repressed emotions we begin to live with a fuller presence in ourselves. We are no longer triggered by our past in our daily interactions. It is a wonderful freedom. We experience anger, sadness and happiness fuller from a more realistic perception.

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The Art of Processing Emotions By Bart Sharp

Many of us spend hours regularly processing emotions that we experience in our lives. It is in the belief that if we come to a place of resolve with them that we would be happier and/or be more present in our lives. Processing emotions is a skill that many have difficulty doing especially if they were not taught as children to identify what they were feeling. Millions have difficulty processing their emotions so if you perceive that you fit in this category do not feel alone.

Processing emotions is both an intellectual skill as well as a body experience. We may be able to express the emotion, recall the memory related to the feeling but have no real connection to it in our body. Which may make us feel disconnected to the experience itself as well as our own body.

Being able to perceive emotions includes feeling the whole experience in our physical body. It is feeling where our body feels uncomfortable when we are upset and all of our bodily reactions included. When we do this we teach ourselves to be more present in our body. The more we live with this kind of awareness anger does feel more intense but so does joy and happiness. We begin the process of leaving the life of muddled emotions where we feel little and remain in a mundane expression of our feelings to a fuller range of ourselves.

One of the keys to breaking out of the mundane life is learning to feel the emotions of our past. What we have suppressed emotionally is often one of the blocks that are holding us back from feeling ourselves. If we can tap into those energetic memories on a body level we can begin the process of releasing them for good. Our cognitive recall of these experiences only gives us the information from our mind we have to address what our body has stored away for them to really go.

What I have discovered is that so much of our daily anxieties, worries, angers, etc always have a source from our past. So when I experience the emotion I stop, sit down and feel it. The first step is to locate where you feel the distress in your body. If you cannot identify it in your body ask the consciousness of your body to turn up so that you can feel it. Or just ask your body, “Where is the sensation of this emotion located?”

Our bodies can do this. They are complex sensory organs that can give us massive amounts of information if we ask. It is important to know that the body wants us to uncover this stuff because it will be so much easier on it not carrying these stuffed emotions.

When we are able to identify the location of the sensation of the emotion sit and be present with it. Place your awareness to perceive the full intensity of the experience of it. Observe only, if we judge it we re-traumatize us to the experience, for example do not go into how bad it was. Even if a memory comes up just be present with it.

Once you perceive that you are in touch with the full energetic memory of the experience ask your body, “Is there a deeper source to where this emotion originated from?” Observe if another sensation shows up in your body, it may be in another location or even underneath where you have been working. Begin the process again of perceiving the full intensity of the energetic memory. Your presence with it will be the catalyst for its release.

When we release these experiences we will begin to feel a lightness in our body. It feels like energetic rocks are removed out of us giving way for a greater body awareness to begin that generally is perceived as feeling lighter. It is a part of the process of knowing yourself wholly.

As I go deeper in this process I find that sometimes I do need to cry to assist in grieving or hit or scream into pillows to release my rage more completely. When I do this I remain focused on the intensity of the energy in my body, I do not put my attention on the person that I am mad at such as imagining their face on the pillow. This is about identifying and releasing your own rage not projecting it out to someone. An important distinction.

What I have found is by using the tools of Access Energy Transformation I am able to release these repressed emotions more effectively. Access releases thoughts, beliefs and emotions on a cellular level. When it is used directly with the identification of the energetic emotional experience the release is very dynamic and permanent. I have seen my life change and witness huge transformational shifts in others by using these awesome tools.

When we begin to live in a place was we are not influenced by our repressed emotions we begin to live with a fuller presence in ourselves. We are no longer triggered by our past in our daily interactions. It is a wonderful freedom. We experience anger, sadness and happiness fuller from a more realistic perception.

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Can Drinking and Drugging Improve Your Social Life? By Tom Horvath

Yes, but...

In the first section let’s discuss how drugs and alcohol can actually have a beneficial effect on your social life (or at least appear to). In the second section let’s discuss why drug and alcohol use can still be a bad idea for you.

One of the most frequent reasons people use drugs, and especially alcohol, is to improve their social ability, either in social groups, or on dates: 'I didn't know how to enjoy myself with others unless I did this. And I could go on a date more easily.' Related to this benefit of using is the possibility of overcoming social awkwardness: 'When I did this I didn't feel insecure, bashful, shy, ill at ease, inadequate, or left out.'

Perhaps you don’t think you belong to any group. It is easy to join a group of other users/drinkers by joining in their activity: 'When I did this, I knew that I fit in with them, that I was one of them. By doing it I could be involved with others I would not have been able to be involved with otherwise, because they wouldn't have accepted me.'

Sometimes we are already in a group, and we get pressure to drink or use. The easiest way to deal with this pressure is to give in to it: 'When others put pressure on me, it was just easier to do it.' Or, in the group we already belong to, we want to feel more important: 'By doing it I felt that I was important and special, I was somebody.'

When conflict comes up, perhaps in a group, but more often in a couple or family, one way to respond is to drink or use, which can have the momentary effect of blocking out the conflict: “This was a way to deal with the conflict we had. I couldn't cope with him/her (or a group) very well otherwise.'

Sometimes the group we are interested in communicating with is society in general, and we want to assert our freedom: 'By doing this I could show others that I do what I want to do, not what others want me to do.' Sometimes the group is our family, and especially our (little) children, from whom we want to escape: 'They would have driven me crazy otherwise!'

So you may be thinking, “this is an impressive list of benefits of drinking and drugging.” Indeed, it is. This list helps explain why so many people drink and drug!

So why wouldn’t everyone drink and drug? There are two primary reasons. The examples given here show how drinking/drugging provides a short-term escape or coping device for the underlying problem, but also does not provide a real solution. Which means that if you don’t find a real solution, you just tend to keep drinking and drugging to deal with the problem.

You could keep drinking and drugging to deal with problems (of any type). But there is a good chance the drinking and drugging will over time become a bigger problem than the original problem. The risk of creating an even bigger problem is the second primary reason not to rely on drinking/drugging to improve your social life!

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7 Steps to Applying Law of Attraction by Visualizing By Adrian Abel

One of the ways to apply the law of attraction in your life is to visualize your desires. This was discussed in the movie, The Secret but the technique of how to visualize was not mentioned.

Here are the 7 steps to visualize so you can apply the law of attraction.

Step 1 - Decide what you want to visualize

Whenever you start to visualize, you should always have a goal or goals of what you want to attract. Say for example, during your lunch break, you want to visualize about 2 things: Enjoying a good night out with your family tonight and also doing a spectacular job with the project you're currently working on. Then concentrate on visualizing these two goals.

Step 2 - Find a quiet place

Find a quiet place where you will have no distractions from anyone. A lot of the times, I will choose places like the bed, before and when I wake up, or my home study room where I know I won't be disturbed.

Step 3 - Clear your mind

Before you visualize you should first clear your mind of whatever distractions you have. If you are worried about a report or a meeting, sit down, relax and stop thinking about these distractions. You don't want these problems to enter your mind when you're applying the law of attraction.

Step 4 - Close your eyes and start imagining

Close your eyes so that you are very relaxed and start thinking about your desires. Imagine yourself how you are behaving at the end result of your desire. If you are desiring a car, think about driving the car and the places you are going to. Go to the extent of imagining the smell of the leather seats.

Step 5 - Feel the Visualization

The most important part is to feel the visualization. Notice how you are reacting when you are living out your desire. Notice how happy you are when driving your new car. The feeling of the steering wheel, the smell of the petrol, the music coming out of the CD system. It is these feelings that are making you give off good vibrations to the universe.

Step 6 - Open your eyes

Then come out of the visualization. If you have been visualizing properly, you will feel as though what happened was real. This is the feeling you want. Every time you visualize try to get this feeling at the end.

Step 7 - Continue

When you are up and about during work or at home, continue to act as though you are living your desire. Act as though you already own the new car, already got promoted, already going on holiday with your family.

By following these 7 steps, you have truly mastered visualization and know how to apply the law of attraction effectively using visualization. There are more techniques to the law of attraction of course, and you should continue to read more on this topic such as the reasons why law of attraction doesn't work.

Resource: http://www.isnare.com/?aid=299885&ca=Self

Typical Mistakes Made In Formulating Suggestion For Self Hypnosis By Richard Kuhns

Self hypnosis is a powerful force that can be used in the attainment of goals or to bring about change in one's health. Best results are done by repeating a suggestion for approximately three to five minutes while in a relaxed state of mind.

How your suggestion is formulated is important. There are seven basic rules of thumb:

1. Say you want to quit smoking, it's important to avoid using a negative--a 'not'--in your suggestion such as “I am not going to smoke.” The reason being is that the brain skips over 'nots'. To experience this first hand, if you are in a situation where you can stand, please do so and do the following. Alright, are you standing? The next instruction is 'Please do not stand!' Did you sit immediately or were you somewhat confused thinking something like, 'He just asked me to stand and now I'm supposed to do what??'

The truth is that the brain skips over the 'not,' and unless I had put you in a situation for you to question it, you would have continued to stand. This is why when you say, 'I am not going to smoke,' the brain interprets it as “I am going to smoke.”

2. Avoid using 'not' in the past tense. For instance, you'll find that with self hypnosis you'll stop smoking. Avoid then thinking, “I don't smoke any more.” either consciously or as a self hypnotic suggestion. Even though at that moment you feel accomplished, it becomes like boomerang and for a while you'll be free of smoking and then the habit of smoking will return just as a boomerang returns.

3. Likewise avoid using “try.” Avoid saying, “I'm trying to (whatever).' Trying indicates that you didn't succeed--you tried but just didn't make it.

4. Avoid the phrase, 'going to' as in I'm going to lose weight. If someone tells you that he/she is going to come visit you, what is the first thing you want to know? When, right? The word 'going' causes anxiety which stands in the way of success. I'm going when? tomorrow? next week, next month, next year?

5. 'Giving up' and 'Doing Without'--avoid using both. Giving up is means the same as not being able to 'cut the mustard,' or 'make the grade.' 'Doing without,' is synonymous with being a bad girl or boy and made to go to bed without desert.

6. Avoid suggestions such as “I am less anxious” or “I am more relaxed around strangers.” These suggestions have you perceive others as 'strangers' or you as being 'anxious' and keep you in that frame of mind.

7. Also avoid suggestions with “I have to” or “I must” or 'I got to.' Psychologist find that when their patients think in those terms, they become more anxious and irritable which actually reduces their IQ making it more difficult to achieve their goals.

If you want to lose weight, in addition to many of the above problem suggestions, there are several others:

1. 'I'm so hungry I could eat a house or horse.' First, hungry is a powerful word that only results in empty feelings. Secondly a house or horse is a pretty big item.

2.'I'll start my diet tomorrow.' The word diet is 'die' with a 't' on the end of it. It means starvation.

3. 'I'll eat today and starve tomorrow.' If you knew that you were going to starve tomorrow, what would you do today? Eat, right?

4. 'I quit eating so much.' The word quit is again a problem since elementary school. Afterall, do you want to be a quitter? Even though you consciously know how you are applying the word such as in 'quit smoking,' too, unconsciously it's connected to being a quitter. So why use the word--especially when so many other far more powerful words and phrases that can be used?

5. 'I'm losing weight.' No one wants to be a loser. This is ingrained in each of us since elementary or preschool. So why use it in your thinking.

Resource: http://www.isnare.com/?aid=209214&ca=Self