Can Drinking and Drugging Help me Deal With Painful Feelings? By Tom Horvath

Yes, but...

No one complains about feeling happy! But we don’t want to have other, painful feelings. When these feelings arise, one way to respond to them is to drink or drug. One set of painful feelings can be broadly labeled fear or anxiety: 'Drugs and/or alcohol helped me cope with feelings like anxiety, tension, fear, stress, agitation, nervousness, vulnerability, intimidation, embarrassment and panic.' Other painful feelings center around sadness and depression: 'They helped me cope with feelings like depression, sadness, hurt, discouragement, grief, feeling defeated, feeling deprived or feeling abandoned.'

There are many other painful feelings as well:

a) frustration, resentment, anger, annoyance, irritability and rage
b) feeling remorseful, ashamed, guilty, responsible, humiliated
c) feeling disgusted or shocked
d) feeling bored, apathetic or impatient
e) feeling over-excited, “amped up,” “wired”
f) feeling exhausted or depleted
g) feeling lonely, isolated, cut off, alienated
h) feeling powerless
i) feeling “in pain” without being able to define the pain very well (perhaps a mixture of many painful feelings)

How well do drugs and alcohol work to cope with these painful feelings? For most of us, quite well! If you have had the experience of alcohol relaxing you, or coke giving you energy, or vicodin just helping you feel better, you don’t need much explanation of these effects. For some, the drugs immediately create bad feelings more than they resolve them. Did you ever see anyone get paranoid after smoking pot or doing a line of coke? These folks aren’t likely to turn to drugs (or at least that drug) for help dealing with bad feelings!

But if you are reading this article, you may be in the group that gets emotional relief from one or more drugs. Have you found yourself thinking:

“It helped me bring my feelings into a more normal range. They were just too out of control without it.'

'I don't understand why, but I felt tremendous pain, and when I did this the pain was less.'

'It helped me cope when I felt like I had nothing left inside of me.'

So what is the problem with this? Maybe nothing, if you don’t do it often or in large quantities. Did you ever overeat to cope with stress? That overeating isn’t a big problem unless it becomes a pattern, a habit, a way of life.

The problems from drug use (or overeating) come from two factors: 1) by using you have not dealt with the problem directly (by delaying dealing with it you may have allowed it to get even worse), and 2) drug use is by itself becomes, sometimes quickly, a problem in many ways, including having a negative impact on how you fit you’re your family and social group, your health, your emotional well-being, your financial security, your legal status, and other ways you are likely familiar with.

However, neither of these facts is guaranteed. Maybe delay will actually help. Maybe the drug you use, in the quantities and ways you do it, causes little harm (think “caffeine”).

So, the only way to know if the drug use you engage in is worth the cost, is to list the benefits of using and the costs of using. Then think very hard about your lists. If you decide that the costs exceed the benefits, then it’s time to make a change.

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Popular Trends With Subliminal Messages By Al Perhacs

Subliminal messages, super shorts bursts of either invisible or inaudible messages that you do not pick up in a conscious manner, are growing in popularity today. The mind interprets these messages in your unconscious, using the info for all types of personal self help activities ranging from physical and mental healing to dealing with emotional issues and more.

While a lot people were introduced to subliminal messages in the form of ads, many years ago, it was a negative experience. They ran into them during movies at the cinema, for instance, inviting guests to buy popcorn and other grandstand products. Not what the public wanted for their movie ticket purchase, that's for sure.

But times have changed. And subliminal message techniques and systems have changed, with a popular means of using the short, repetitive messages being with computers today.

Subliminal Computer Self Help

A popular product line in the marketplace today is a subliminal message script. You purchase the script and it usually comes in the form of an executable file that you download and save to your computer, then click to start.

Once you start or activate it, you often find preloaded message series that can help with any number of issues like smoking cessation, weight loss, overcoming addiction, improving your self esteem and more. The message can even be customized or you can load your own series.

A series may include some 10 to 20 short messages like:

1. I can stop smoking and I will.
2. I do not need a cigarette. Instead, breathing in good, fresh air smells and feels great.
3. Instead of spending money on cigarettes, I will save my money & spend it later, however I like.
4. My health is improving every day.
5. My lungs are getting stronger and healthier.
6. Etc.

Then you go into your control panel of the software script, and set a timer that tells how fast your messages will be displayed, like every second or so. Try the default and ones recommended, and adjust as needed.

Subliminal Message Writing

For help with your message writing, there are several resources to help. A small sampling of these are:

1) Elance - Head to this freelance site and hire people to bid son writing message series for you. You can seek writers who are experienced writing these. The site offers free account registration and setup, and free project posting as well as advanced paid options.

2) Head to the public library, local bookstore or online bookstore like Amazon for subliminal books that focus on what your goals are, to help with the content. For example, you can find a materials like this CD / DVD, '30-Day Subliminal Weight Loss Program: Lose Fat While Your Unconscious Mind Does The Work,' by Steve Murray.

Learn more at individual places that sell these products. And download a trial where you can to see what you think. Subliminal messages make it much easier today to tackle physical, mental and other issues in a safe manner. See what you think.

Resource: http://www.isnare.com/?aid=299951&ca=Self